12 Days of Christmas, Day 8 – Susanne Gervay

On the 8th Day of Christmas my Co-Regional Advisor for SCBWI Susanne Gervayhas also contributed to our 12 days!Susanne writes fiction about life with warmth and humour for young adults and in her ‘spare’ time she operates the Hughenden Hotel in Sydney.

Following is her touching reflection of family, memories, love and renewal.

A Christmas Reflection, 2009

My beloved mother and the Grandma of my children Jamie and Tory, passed away on 10th December 2005. Christmas was Grandma. The years changed her role from the cook and gift giver. However even at her last Christmas, she had something special for each of the 7 grand children at our Christmas Eve celebrations. She used to accompany our enthusiastic singing by playing her violin. At the last few Christmases she couldn’t play anymore. However she loved hearing Tory play the trumpet and the family’s bad renditions of ‘Jingle Bells.’

Grandma lived with me until the last 2 years of her life. When she became wheelchair bound and I couldn’t look after her anymore she had to go to a nursing home. This was one of the most painful experiences of my life. However someone from the family saw her every day at the nursing home, as she was part of our daily lives. Tory was especially beautiful and would often take her girlfriends with her and share their teenage adventures with Grandma. She was still central to our Christmas Eve. She loved that.

My father passed away more than 20 years ago. It’s always hard to think that the grandchildren only have distant memories of him now. They still remember Grandma and vaguely remember the Grandpa who used to dress in the red Santa suit with the white cotton wool beard. He’d wave as he’d appear at the family and friend picnic never complaining about the hot Australian sun, with his bag of gifts and ‘ho-ho’ cheer. The children ran to him, hugging Grandpa.

As people grow older, human beings acquire the faces they deserve. Owen D Young.

My parents had those faces that reflect family and love. I miss my father’s twinkle in his eyes and my mother’s smile. I miss my parents at Christmas. However there are new families, new children and renewal and my children to hug me now. One day I’ll be a Grandma and Bill, will be a Grandpa.

2 Responses to 12 Days of Christmas, Day 8 – Susanne Gervay

  1. This is such a beautiful concept – the 12 days of Christmas. Thankyou for asking me to think about my experiences and reflect. It was a wonderful way to start 2010.

    Susanne Gervay

    jason007 January 3, 2010 at 6:46 am Reply
  2. These are all such lovely sentiments, Chris! Thanks for doing this.

    Janet Fox January 3, 2010 at 12:38 pm Reply

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